I think this may be a pet peeve of mine. Over time I think I have seen too much unrest in lives because a person was unable to move on and be in harmony with the current time and setting.
So there is one expression I rarely use and that is the expression "letting go".
First and foremost I personally don't think this expression is fitting in terms of a relationship with another adult person.
I think an adult person has a right to his or her own life and that fact should be respected by others.
The "letting go"of another person just doesn't seem to be in line with knowing and respecting a persons place in regard to another persons right to his or her own life, liberty and the prusuit of happiness.
It conveys that a person has the ability and choice that "letting go" of the other person will then allow freedom to occur.
I think that is thinking too much of one's self or of the other person and it becomes more like a control thing or a power struggle. Both people involved should enjoy the freedom of living a full, productive and functioal life without thinking a permission from another is needed to do so.
The reason I don't use that particular expression very much is, also, because it conveys to me that we hold something within the grasp of our hands. To me it is a false concept that it is just a matter of releasing our own grasp on something will release us from whatever is holding us from going forward.
Instead, in my opinion we are the one held captive by a grasp on us and the way to be released from its grasp is for us to move beyond of its reach.
Here again "moving on" takes us out of reach of the things that used to hold us back.
Examples of this woud be---"letting go" of the pain when in fact we are being held in the grasp of the pain.
We can "let go" all we want but the answer is that for the pain to no longer be able to have its hold on us we have to move beyond pains reach.
Like, for instance, a new confidence in ourselves makes us secure and that confidence in ourselves moves us out of the reach of from being overpowered and held captive by the insecurities of the past.
Instead of "letting go" we "move on" and this new way brings us in a new direction that in turn will free us from the former holds, from old repeated patterns because we now live beyond the reach of these old ways. Therefore the former problematic lifestyle canno longer hold us because we have moved outside of its range of reach.
These old ways have to release us because of our living a new fuller and more productive life.
We have "moved on" that we become out of reach of any grasp that the past may have had on us.
The negative aspect is the one "letting go" of us, not us "letting go" of it.
We are no longer living within reach of what was holding us back.
That distance is exactly what releases us from the any grasp of a former negative or destructive way.
I don't say "letting go",
For I know I have no control,
Our lives all rest on a dinvine plan,
That at times we 'will' and 'will not' understand.
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