"You can't teach an old dog new tricks".
I remember seeing an interview with a dog trainer when the interviewer asked if some dogs are harder to train than others and why would that be. The dog trainer answered, "All dogs train the same if they are willing to please".
I then remembered how when I was young it was important for me to please people. The happiness of others and to keep things going well were my rewards. I made promises just to say "yes" and to get them to stop asking me. My heart wasn't in a lot of these promises and, as a matter of fact, I even resented being asked to do so much for others all of the time. Finally, I learned to say "no". The world didn't stop but some of these friendships did end. I guess I had been an enabler and a rescuer without knowing it and I had been part of a dysfunctional relationship. My 'treat" had now changed to still wanting the best but it had to come without me doing the other person's part in any way. To see them succeed without me was my "reward"- "treat".
Now I am older and I don't want to please anyone anymore and consequently I still don't jump through the hoops they hold out for me to jump through. So I definitely know, "You can't teach an old dog new tricks" because it is "not important to the old dog to please" the trainer anymore and to the dog is no longer worth the effort to try to learn something new for the same treat.
As long as I live I hope to do new and interesting things but they will be new things that I
want to do and enjoy---not what someone else wants for me to do when I know I really don't have that much interest in it and it is not important to me to say "yes".. To true friends things like this don't matter because there is a mutual respect for each other.
Wednesday, May 20, 2020
Tuesday, May 19, 2020
"Old Saying Tells Exactly What To Watch For" by Susan Pearl
"That's the canary in the coal mine".
Some lethal fumes are odorless. These odorless fumes can also be explosive. I have learned that such fumes can be in the coalmines. So in a coal miners setting a canary in a cage would be taken into the mine. If the bird was healthy the miners knew the air was alright to breathe. But if the bird showed signs of being overcome that meant the air was dangerous and to get out. Either way---"the canary was what needed to be watched for safety".
This expression is used to emphasize what needs to be watched in a dangerous setting. That there is a way of knowing in evaluating a situation for danger and safety
Today there are high tech meters that give readings of the quality of air and sound alarm when the air shows signs of being toxic.
A toxic sign is giving warning for immediate action to be taken or there may be loss of life.
"That's the canary in the coalmine " is like saying "That is what we have to watch for safety to avoid deadly consequences.".
Different settings will have different things to watch for conditions to stay safe. If conditions show a sign that toxic levels are immanent than immediate action has to be taken to prevent the loss of life. Some deadly situations are invisible and we need to a way to be watchful for the protection from potential harm and tragedy.
Smoke detectors and carbon monoxide detectors are warning devices to take immediate action and evacuation.
In dealing with the COVID-19 pandemic there are warning signs when immediate action will need to be taken for the protection and safety of others. Knowing what to watch is greatly valuable in the prevention of casualties and catastrophes.
Some lethal fumes are odorless. These odorless fumes can also be explosive. I have learned that such fumes can be in the coalmines. So in a coal miners setting a canary in a cage would be taken into the mine. If the bird was healthy the miners knew the air was alright to breathe. But if the bird showed signs of being overcome that meant the air was dangerous and to get out. Either way---"the canary was what needed to be watched for safety".
This expression is used to emphasize what needs to be watched in a dangerous setting. That there is a way of knowing in evaluating a situation for danger and safety
Today there are high tech meters that give readings of the quality of air and sound alarm when the air shows signs of being toxic.
A toxic sign is giving warning for immediate action to be taken or there may be loss of life.
"That's the canary in the coalmine " is like saying "That is what we have to watch for safety to avoid deadly consequences.".
Different settings will have different things to watch for conditions to stay safe. If conditions show a sign that toxic levels are immanent than immediate action has to be taken to prevent the loss of life. Some deadly situations are invisible and we need to a way to be watchful for the protection from potential harm and tragedy.
Smoke detectors and carbon monoxide detectors are warning devices to take immediate action and evacuation.
In dealing with the COVID-19 pandemic there are warning signs when immediate action will need to be taken for the protection and safety of others. Knowing what to watch is greatly valuable in the prevention of casualties and catastrophes.
Monday, May 18, 2020
"Old Saying Shows Importance of Meeting the Needs of Others" by Susan Pearl
"They've got him over a barrel".
Over the years there have been times when different things are the things that I had a need for and had to have. There was time that if I worked I had the need for childcare. Now our children are grown up but I can understand it when people need childcare in order to work. They are over a barrel because that is something they have to have and they need other people to provide it.
There are people who are in need of daily medication in order to live. They have to have the medication They are over a barrel because what they need is held by other people.
It is a hard place to be "to be held over a barrel" but it the way of life for many people and we should be kind and sympathetic, have empathy and not allow them to be taken advantage of because that setting is a "need that has to be met" and there should be several avenues who would provide for that need in a fair and timely manner. Lets strive for avenues to meet the needs of people so that no one feels being held "over a barrel"' and have options and choices that will meet each need.
Over the years there have been times when different things are the things that I had a need for and had to have. There was time that if I worked I had the need for childcare. Now our children are grown up but I can understand it when people need childcare in order to work. They are over a barrel because that is something they have to have and they need other people to provide it.
There are people who are in need of daily medication in order to live. They have to have the medication They are over a barrel because what they need is held by other people.
It is a hard place to be "to be held over a barrel" but it the way of life for many people and we should be kind and sympathetic, have empathy and not allow them to be taken advantage of because that setting is a "need that has to be met" and there should be several avenues who would provide for that need in a fair and timely manner. Lets strive for avenues to meet the needs of people so that no one feels being held "over a barrel"' and have options and choices that will meet each need.
Sunday, May 17, 2020
Dates of blogs for "Old Sayings" by Susan Pearl
Dates for an additional 10 blogs of "Old Sayings" ( 60 in total for now )
Other blog dates of Old Sayings are: 4-19-2020, 4-26-2020, 5-3-2020, 5-9-2020
May 10, 2020
"It's the thought that counts".
May 11, 2020
"The proof is in the pudding."
"You can fool some of the people some of the time,
You can fool part of the people part of the time,
But you can't fool all of the people all of the time".
May 12, 2020
"It's better late than never".
May 13, 2020
"An empty wagon makes a lot of noise".
"If it sounds too good to be true, it probably is".
May 15, 2020
"An idle mind is the devil's workshop".
May 16, 2020
"They swallowed it- hook, line and sinker".
"Their bark is worse than their bite".
"Like going on a wild goose chase".
Other blog dates of Old Sayings are: 4-19-2020, 4-26-2020, 5-3-2020, 5-9-2020
May 10, 2020
"It's the thought that counts".
May 11, 2020
"The proof is in the pudding."
"You can fool some of the people some of the time,
You can fool part of the people part of the time,
But you can't fool all of the people all of the time".
May 12, 2020
"It's better late than never".
May 13, 2020
"An empty wagon makes a lot of noise".
"If it sounds too good to be true, it probably is".
May 15, 2020
"An idle mind is the devil's workshop".
May 16, 2020
"They swallowed it- hook, line and sinker".
"Their bark is worse than their bite".
"Like going on a wild goose chase".
Saturday, May 16, 2020
"Old Saying Tells to Not be Gullible" by Susan Pearl
"They swallowed it, hook, line and sinker".
Being naïve and trusting are really not bad traits but the problem that these traits can make a person vulnerable to be taken advantage of by others.
We have to stick with the facts and the facts are that not all people are nice and some of them are looking for susceptible people to believe the lies they are telling. No matter how they look, as they can look the part of being genuine and sincere, no matter what they say, as they have been skilled for buzz words that they notice show an inroad for more conversation, no matter how coincidental as it may seem (for instance you are in recent need of what they have or a service they can provide)---REMEMBER a stranger is a stranger and don't ever forget it.
Be aware and keep evaluating and don't be gullible---don't swallow it hook, line and sinker because then you will be caught by them and that is exactly what they wanted to do (to hook you). Don't be gullible. There "are" coincidences in that strangers can come along right when we need what they have to offer but verify authenticity and find and cross check references before taking any action that can set you and your family up for problems or harm...…. beware and be aware in not taking their bait.
Being naïve and trusting are really not bad traits but the problem that these traits can make a person vulnerable to be taken advantage of by others.
We have to stick with the facts and the facts are that not all people are nice and some of them are looking for susceptible people to believe the lies they are telling. No matter how they look, as they can look the part of being genuine and sincere, no matter what they say, as they have been skilled for buzz words that they notice show an inroad for more conversation, no matter how coincidental as it may seem (for instance you are in recent need of what they have or a service they can provide)---REMEMBER a stranger is a stranger and don't ever forget it.
Be aware and keep evaluating and don't be gullible---don't swallow it hook, line and sinker because then you will be caught by them and that is exactly what they wanted to do (to hook you). Don't be gullible. There "are" coincidences in that strangers can come along right when we need what they have to offer but verify authenticity and find and cross check references before taking any action that can set you and your family up for problems or harm...…. beware and be aware in not taking their bait.
"Old Saying Surprisingly Doesn't Bite" by Susan Pearl
"Their bark is worse than their bite".
There are some people whose demeanor comes across as being gruff, unfriendly, stern, critical and indifferent. It makes a person wonder if they are like this on a good day what would they be like on a bad day. But when the bad day comes it is noticeable that they are not any harder to get along with, even in a very sudden high stress situation. It turns out that their reactions and responses are better than a person thought would be and that is because "Their bark is worse than their bite".
There are some people whose demeanor comes across as being gruff, unfriendly, stern, critical and indifferent. It makes a person wonder if they are like this on a good day what would they be like on a bad day. But when the bad day comes it is noticeable that they are not any harder to get along with, even in a very sudden high stress situation. It turns out that their reactions and responses are better than a person thought would be and that is because "Their bark is worse than their bite".
"Old Saying Spends Day Going and There " by Susan Pearl
"It was like going on a wild goose chase".
In my opinion this old saying is referring to the times when we start out our day thinking we can find what we want at a certain place but it is not there. So then we go to another place and it is not there either. Then we are told that there may be one left if we go to a different place. When we get there it is just sold out. We have a hunch that maybe it could be at a remote, out of the way, place and it is not there either. So at the end of the day we come home with absolutely nothing and we have spent the whole day looking to find what we thought we could find. We have just been on a "wild goose chase".
In my opinion this old saying is referring to the times when we start out our day thinking we can find what we want at a certain place but it is not there. So then we go to another place and it is not there either. Then we are told that there may be one left if we go to a different place. When we get there it is just sold out. We have a hunch that maybe it could be at a remote, out of the way, place and it is not there either. So at the end of the day we come home with absolutely nothing and we have spent the whole day looking to find what we thought we could find. We have just been on a "wild goose chase".
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